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Five Languages of  Apology

Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas

2 Hard Cover

Just as you have a different love language, you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language. New York Times best-selling author Gary Chapman has teamed with counselor Jennifer Thomas on this groundbreaking study of the way we apologize, discovering that it’s not just a matter of will—it’s a matter of how. By helping people identify the languages of apology, this book clears the way toward healing and sustaining vital relationships. The authors detail proven techniques for giving and receiving effective apologies.

Marriage Enrichment or Assistance

Forgiving the Unforgivable

Beverly Flanigan, M.S.S.W.

1 Soft Cover

Women and men who have been deeply hurt by someone they love often experience a pain that spirals out to undermine their work, relationships, self-esteem, and even their sense of reality. In Forgiving the Unforgivable, author Beverly Flanigan, a leading authority on forgiveness, defines such unforgivable injuries, explains their poisonous effects, and then guides readers out of the paralyzing anger and resentment. As a Fellow of the Kellogg Foundation, Flanigan  conducted a pioneering study of forgiveness, and from that study, from her clinical practice, and from her many years of teaching, researching, and conducting professional workshops and seminars, she devised a unique six-stage program, presented here. Filled with inspiring real-life examples, Forgiving the Unforgivable is both a practical and a comforting guide to recovery and healing.

Marriage  Assistance

Getting Past the Affair

Douglas Snyder, Donald Baucom, Kristina Coop Gordon

1 Soft Cover

A program to help you cope, heal and move on-together or apart.

Marriage  Assistance

Infidelity: A Survival Guide

Don-David Lusterman, Ph. D

1 Soft Cover

Psychologist Don-David Lusterman has spent thousands of hours counseling clients who needed help coping with infidelity. In this book, he shares what he has learned in a step-by-step format that’s helps readers cope with the emotional impact of the affair, decide what it tells then about their marriage, and either choose to break up or begin to rebuild their relationship.

Marriage  Assistance

Taking Space

Robert Buchicchio

1 Soft Cover

How to use separation to explore the future of your relationship. The ten-step approach to separation will help you figure out what you and your partner really want and whether the relationship can provide it.

Marriage  Assistance

When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages

Dr. Les Parrott III & Dr. Leslie Parrott

2 Sets: Workbook for Her, Workbook for Him, Hard Cover Book

What happens when bad things happen to good marriages? In this book, the Parrotts talk about how every marriage begins well but eventually bumps into a few "bad things." So, how can a good marriage survive when bad things are bound to happen to it? The Parrotts present six basic principles -- responsibility, hope, forgiveness, empathy, honor, and commitment--that help couples overcome the bad things while strengthening their marriages.

Marriage  Assistance

10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage

John M. Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman

2 Hard Cover

From inside the famed Gottman Institute, the “Love Lab”: ten scientifically proven, practical ways to strengthen your marriage.  “We don’t feel close anymore.”  “You never talk to me.”  “We only have time for the kids.”  “All you do is work.”  “You don’t care about my dreams.”  Do you recognize yourself, or your spouse, in any of these statements? If so, Dr. John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, say you shouldn’t be surprised. In fact, their decades of scientific research have shown that most couples face these and other serious problems—but what the Gottmans have proven is that such difficulties don’t have to lead to a broken relationship, or even divorce.  In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, the Gottmans provide vital tools—scientifically based and empirically verified—that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication. You’ll strengthen your relationship and make it the most fulfilling it can be.

Marriage Assistance

After the Affair

Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D.

1 Soft Cover

After the Affair is the first book that explains to partners how they can help themselves through the shattering crisis of an infidelity. Drawing on close to three decades as a clinical psychologist, Janis Abrahms Springs, Ph. D., offers a series of original and proven strategies that address such crucial questions as, Why did the affair happen? Once love and trust are gone, can we ever get them back? Can I- should I- recommit when I feel so ambivalent? How do we become sexually intimate again? Is forgiveness possible?

Marriage Assistance

Angry Couple, The

Susan Heitler, Ph.D

1 set: DVD, Viewer's Manual

This video program recreates key moments in the six-month course of therapy with a married couple in their early 30s. Dr. Heitler demonstrates her highly original approach for helping couples quickly cut through impasses that prolong their conflict and obscure the fundamental issues. THIS CAN ALSO BE USED IN SMALL GROUP SETTING.

Marriage Assistance

Choosing Wisely Before You Divorce

Church Initiative

2 sets: Soft Cover Book, 2 DVD's

Don’t let the emotional intensity of a marriage crisis drive your decision. Before deciding whether to divorce or stay together, you need information—LOTS of information.  Choosing Wisely: Before You Divorce will help you step back from the emotional turmoil you now face to take an objective view of how divorce (if you select that path) will affect your life. THIS CAN ALSO BE USED IN SMALL GROUP SETTING.

Marriage Assistance

Fighting for Your Marriage

Howard J. Markman Scott M. Stanley Susan L. Blumberg

2 Soft Cover

This new and revised edition of Fighting for Your Marriage is based on the widely acclaimed PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up.

Marriage Assistance

Getting Back Together

Bettie Youngs, Ph.D., Ed.D., and Masa Goetz, Ph.D.

2 Soft Cover

The divorce courts are littered with broken marriages-and broken lives. Yet most people would save their marriages-if they only knew how. Getting Back Together is the solid, comprehensive guide you can count on to get your relationship back on track. No matter what issues you may face, this step-by-step program shows you how to take the initiative, reconcile your differences, and remake your relationship-from the ground up. In this completely revised and updated edition, Drs Youngs and Goetz provide the most current studies and relationship evaluation tools available. They also include numerous inspiring real-life stories of couples that have resurrected and renewed their relationships.

Marriage Assistance

Good Divorce, The

Constance Ahrons, Ph.D

1 Soft Cover

It’s never too late to have a Good Divorce: Based on two decades of groundbreaking research,  The Good Divorce presents the surprising finding that in more than 50 percent of divorces, couples end their marriages yet preserve their families. Dr. Ahrons shows how they can move beyond the confusing, even terrifying early stages of breakup and learn to deal with the transition from a nuclear to a “binuclear” family-one that spans two households and continues to meet the needs of children. It is a powerful tonic for the millions of divorcing and long-divorced parents who are ready to move beyond the hurt. It will makes us change the way we think about divorce and the way we divorce, reconfirming our commitment to children and families.

Marriage Assistance

Marriage Savers **

Michael McManus

2 Soft Cover

Helping your friends and family avoid divorce. This book is filled with concrete, biblical advice for those serious about saving marriages. **This contains faith based information.

Marriage Assistance

Marriage Savers, A Manual to Create a Marriage Savers Congregation **

Michael McManus

1 3-Ring Binder, 1 VHS Tape

Information on how to begin to use Marriage Savers in your congregation.  **This contains faith based information.

Marriage Assistance

Not “Just Friends”

Shirley P. Glass, Ph. D

2 Soft Cover

Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity. Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Marriage Assistance

PREP Fighting for Your Marriage

David Olson, Peter Larson

1 DVD

A video that explains the Prepare/Enrich program.  **This contains faith based information.

Marriage Assistance

Relationship Rescue

Phillip C. McGraw, Ph. D.

2 Soft Cover

A seven-step strategy for reconnecting with your partner. This book explodes ten myths about relationships that can sabotage even the most healthy of loves.

Marriage Assistance

Taking Space, Introduction to Taking Space

Robert Buchicchio

2 DVD's

In this overview of the ten steps of Separation Management you will learn how to communicate better and handle anger and conflict more effectively. Practical techniques are presented to help couples evaluate their level of investment and commitment to each other. Learn about different types of separations, how to talk to children about these issues, and how to take responsibility and empower yourself.

Marriage Assistance

Taking Space, Romance Lost

Robert Buchicchio

2 DVD's

This couple's journey through a physical separation and counseling is an excellent demonstration of how they use the 10 Steps of Separation Management and acquire skills to stop arguing, learn to make-up and start talking and listening once again.

Marriage Assistance

Taking Space, Shutdown Spouse

Robert Buchicchio

2 DVD's

This video demonstrates how one person alone can break an impasse and take charge of a very stuck relationship using 10 steps of Separation Management to form a structure so self work and development can occur.

Marriage Assistance

Taking Space, The Affair

Robert Buchicchio

2 DVD's

This video follows the couple as they acquire practical relationship-building skills, learn how to deal with the emotional aftermath of the affair, and begin  the process of determining the future of their relationship.

Marriage Assistance